Forgiveness & Trust
Brett Ritchey

just watched Kevin Max Smith's (formerly of dcTalk) new movie The
Imposter last night. it brought up some cool stuff that really got me
thinking. how come we expect people to always forgive us cause it's the
"Christian thing to do" and then get mad when they don't trust us even
after we asked for forgiveness?

forgiveness and trust don't come together as a package you know? when
Peter asks Jesus "How
many times should I forgive my brother? Seven times?", Jesus answers
saying "
seven times, but seventy times seven!" that's 490 times! now Jesus isn't
saying here to keep track and count every single time you have to
forgive someone, and that on their 491st time you say, HA!, can't
forgive you anymore, Jesus said only 490 times!
he's saying that
when someone asks forgiveness, we aren't to rub their noses in what
they've done to us from then on, and that this is something we must
continually do, forgive people. Jesus doesn't say however, to
immediately place your trust in that person again.

comes in time. it is the forgiveness that sets the stage for trust to
grow once more where it used to be. while the hurt and pain may rear
it's ugly head again and again even after forgiveness, there has to be a
healing of the heart and mind for trust to come back, which could take
if you'd like, read the story of Joseph in Genesis. it
starts in chapter 37 and goes to around 50, but is an epic account of
betrayal, forgiveness and trust.

though, just because forgiveness is granted doesn't mean everything is
back to normal. to paraphrase one of bryan duncan's songs: love (trust)
takes time. and while it's not blind to the wrongs made against it, it's
a choice made by both to eitherĀ  sacrifice the right to remember the
wrong-doings or to sacrifice their pride and endure the time/pain it
takes to stand firm in regaining the trust that was lost.